Tuesday, May 25, 2010

Communicate It!

Adapting to the communication needs of others is critical in any communication - but specifically important during conflict. To resolve conflict one needs to hear, as well as be heard.

Style: Stable
They are agreeable, cooperative, team oriented, and sensitive to others feelings. They may get quiet and withdrawn during conflict. Feelings may be hurt by how you talk with them. May resist or avoid change. Their motto is, "If it ain't broke - don't fix it!"

Strategy:
Prepare them for change. Ask for input and contributions. Provide ongoing feedback. Appreciate their efforts. Encourage them to express their feelings. Be respectful and stay calm.

Style: Thorough
They are logical and analytical. They ask questions, thrive on organization and can be a task master. Often sees the downside first. Frequently stuck in "analysis paralysis". Avoids dealing with feelings. Their motto is, "If you can't do it right, don't do it at all."

Strategy:
Recognize their expertise and analytical skills - use them to your advantage. Assure quality results and heightened standards. Help them set realistic expectations with timely deadlines.

Style: Emotional
They are social butterflies, outgoing, people-oriented. Persuasive and friendly, they are the ones who get people working together and starting new projects. They may be too focused on feelings and have trouble dealing with business. Will avoid dealing with conflict because they don't want to hurt anyone's feelings. Their motto is, "Let's relax and have fun."

Strategy:
Include them in decision making - help them include facts as well as feelings into this process. Avoid personal criticism - appeal to their need to be accepted and liked. Have a system for resolving problems and conflicts. Provide opportunities for them to use their people skills.

Style: Pusher
Fast moving, sees new ideas and gets things done fast. Tend to be direct and forceful in order to get things done. May become impatient with lots of detail and questions. May appear unfriendly. Their motto is, "Just do it this way."

Strategy:
Avoid arguing - provide choices and options instead of telling them what to do. Help them to consider others feelings while being patient and supportive. Focus on the need for quick results.

Ericka Heid
HR Now
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Resolve It!

Like death and taxes, conflict seems to be an inevitable part of life. Because we all see the world through our own "lenses", there is plenty of opportunity for misinterpretation, miscommunication, or just opposing opinions. I'd like to argue that conflict is wonderful. It affords us the opportunity to learn more about another person, a new idea, or a different paradigm. I hope you enjoy these tips for conflict resolution success!

1. There will always be conflict
You can not eliminate it, but you can be prepared for it. Can you think of an environment without conflict?

2. Focus on the objective
Ask yourself, “What is the objective?” When you know this, you can focus on the process, not the other way around. It is natural to go right to focusing on the process first, because we want the situation to change; but a good place to start is defining the desired outcome.

3. Focus on interests, not positions
Enlarge the scope of possibilities. You will need lots of options in order to effectively resolve conflict. In our culture (individualistic and competitive) we tend to focus on “I’m right, and you are wrong.” Ask each involved to get past that in order to start work on creating new possibilities.

4. Seek win-win, not win-lose
There should never be a “loser” in conflict. Both sides should leave feeling as though they have gained something.

5. Ask yourself: What opinions do you currently hold of each participant, their side of the story, your idea of who is “wrong” or “right”? This is the lens with which you are seeing the conflict. Become aware of this and see your opinion only for what it is – your opinion.

6. Embrace it!
It is healthy. When you resist it, it stays, grows and you're stuck with it. When you embrace it, it looses its power. Use the other person’s strengths (or their momentum) to your advantage (Martial Arts rule of thumb.)

7. Develop a process to get a desired outcome
Only do this after you have decided on the objective.

8. Always acknowledge the other
Seek first to understand. Doing so will make a “deposit” into the emotional bank account of the other party, which will increase your credibility with that person.

9. Ask yourself “What is it about my belief system that causes me to think and act the way I do?”
What lens does each party wear? What do they desire to have respected by the other? What are their expectations?

10. Approach with a positive attitude
Our attitude is the only thing we control. It is more important than status, degrees that you have, your position, or money.

Monday, April 19, 2010

Conflict is an Opportunity

Conflict Is An Opportunity...

Having conflict with anyone can be terrible. It can be hurtful, disrespectful, and harm your relationships.

Having conflict can be wonderful. It can be honest, show respect, and strengthen relationships.

Lately, I have seen conflict dealt with in a less than desirable way, so let's learn from those mistakes...

Ignoring the situation
Ignoring a conflict is one of the most common responses people have when confronted with a conflict situation. Instead of actively trying to manage the conflict, we avoid the issue and desperately hope things will get better. Face it: unless we take definitive action, the situation will probably get worse.

Becoming Aggressive
This is an “in your face” approach. Some people get so energized about addressing conflict that they become aggressive. It’s open communication, but it’s brutal. An attack usually leads to a counter-attack, which is counter productive.

With both of these types of behaviors, there are bound to be negative effects. Some of which include; damaged team spirit, declining productivity, arguments, accusations, lowered job satisfaction, and - at its worst - health problems.

So, remember the Aiki Approach

Be Willing to Understand....

§ Is the gift that comes from listening
§ Is asking questions rather than having the answer
§ Allows differences to fade and similarities to come forth
§ Naturally acknowledges and appreciates the other person
§ Moves us from issue to vision
§ Creates movement from stalemate to resolution

“Learning, growing, and cooperating are goals for resolving conflict” – Thomas Crum

Ericka Heid
HR Now
www.h-r-now.com

Sunday, April 11, 2010

Building Trust

Building trust should be a conscious effort for managers, because boss-employee relationships often begin with disempowering assumptions and expectations that can cause staff members to distrust their managers and withhold information. For example, employees may assume, based on their past experience of managers or other authority figures, that their manager is looking for ways to judge and criticize their work. They may assume that their manager prefers to keep them at their current level so as not to challenge the manager's own job security. They may expect to keep to 'their place' and refrain from interfering in the work of their seniors, challenging the organization or learning 'too much'. They may further assume that it would work to their disadvantage to reveal any aspirations that do not relate directly to their current job. To be effective, a coaching manager must dispel such disempowering assumptions.

Here are some key techniques for greatly increasing the level of trust between you as the manager, and your team members.
Open yourself first.
Share your strengths and weaknesses. Share your mistakes and achievements. I don't mean that you have to talk a lot or reveal a lot of personal details. You must simply display your willingness to reveal what is relevant and to treat your own and other's shortcomings lightly and positively. If you can accept your own weaknesses, it is much more likely that you will be able to accept other's shortcomings as well. Your team members will feel relief that they are not the only ones to have made mistakes. They will feel much more trust for someone they can know well. They will begin to model your openness.

Have a frank conversation with each employee about how you want to relate to them and ask for their support.
This is the simplest and most direct way to initiate a more trusting relationship, regardless of the current level of trust you have. If your relationship has been rocky in the past, or if you believe your employee is resistant to opening up, you may want to prepare for a diplomatic conversation including plenty of listening. Your willingness to discuss such issues directly will impress your employees of the importance you place on your relationship.

Listen to them fully.
Give them a chance to be heard. Listen beyond their words for deeper understanding of their intentions, needs and assumptions. Deep listening builds understanding and trust. And it is something that all of us can do, as long as we give ourselves time and focus. That means we have to stop both external and internal distractions and be fully present to the other person. Although listening is a basic skill for all communicators, it is a skill that can be developed further through practice and attention.

Openly appreciate them.
Be generous with your praise. Point out the specifics of their personality and behavior that add value. Many managers feel hesitant to appreciate and assume there is a risk of appreciating 'too much'. But these managers underestimate the power of positive feedback, even though they may have benefited from it personally. Have you experienced the burst of enthusiasm and initiative that comes from effective positive feedback? This is valuable energy that can be generated easily through frequent recognition and that leads to increased trust. In my experience, appreciation and recognition is only 'over used' when it is insincere. There are many different ways to appreciate and recognize people that will help you retain full sincerity and positive effect. Nonetheless it is useful for managers to also build their proficiency in giving positive corrective feedback so that they can freely give both while further enhancing the trusting and supportive relationships they have with their people.

Do what you say you will do.
Be reliable and consistent. Of course, the basis of trust is that we abide by our agreements and contracts. And even unspoken expectations act like promises that reduce trust when they are broken. For example, if you are usually calm when you learn of poor sales results, and then one day you lose your patience and blurt out your frustrations, people will lose trust in you because they can no longer be sure that you will react they as expect.

Ericka Heid
www.h-r-now.com
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Management's Role in Employee Motivation

82% of departing employees will say that the reason they started looking for another job was due to the relationship with their manager. Managers, given this statistic, can we all agree that you have a special role in retaining your employees?

It is true that managers can not "create" motivation within an employee, but what they can do is create an environment that is motivating to their employees.

Want another scary statistic? Almost 90% of employees, when surveyed, say that communication breakdown within their organization is a problem at work - and creates an unmotivating and dis-engaging phenomena at the office.

Be proactive - try a few, easy tips for creating a motivating work environment by increasing your communication strategy:

1. Give effective praise that portrays sincerity
2. Deliver criticism without creating confrontation and conflict
3. Conduct or participate in effective performance review discussions
4. Conducte or participate in an effective interview for a new job or promotion
5. Make an apology that touches the heart and convinces the mind
6. Ask effective questions to probe for facts and provoke for ideas
7. Discuss conflict without offending
8. Communicate to build rapport and create trust
9. Communicate to create collaboration and engage your staff
10. Communicate to resolve conflict and reach agreement

Ericka Heid
www.h-r-now.com
HR Now

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

What Not To Wear

With the ever popular show, "What Not To Wear", in re-run status and showing on several networks at several different times you'd think we, as a society, would have gotten it by now. But no - sadly, we haven't. Business casual has somehow turned into jeans and a polo shirt for men, and a tank top with a short skirt for women.

So, for those of you who are looking for a policy directing your staff "What Not To Wear" - click here and mention this blog for a no charge policy that you can use to educate your employees. For those of you who are not sure what is acceptable at work, or are just needing some general guidelines, read on:

1. Ladies, no straps - no armpits - no backs. If you are exposing shoulders or your back, you are not business casual -that is summer wear. Be careful to cover bra straps. There is never a good excuse to show straps.

2. Men, no pants that have pockets at or below your knees. Cargo pants are not business casual - ever. Also, no pants that have a worn area around your wallet - throw them out and start over.

3. Ladies, no sandals. Open toed professional shoes are okay (in some office settings) - strappy sandals are for the beach.

4. Gents, if you are wearing a polo shirt - be sure it is pressed and in GREAT shape.

5. No matter who you are, your outfit should FIT. This means no tight pants, shirts or dresses. Err on the side of too big vs. too small. There is nothing worse than ill fitting clothing - everyone feels uncomfortable in that situation.

6. Men, Cosby Sweaters went out in the early '90's. Donate them and start over with some current trends.

7. There is no reason for fishnet or lacey tights at work. Please, don't do it.

8. Tattoos are personal. Keep them covered and out of site. Piercings too. Maybe it isn't fair, but others make judgements about you and your odd piercings. Take them out at work. The obvious exception - earrings.

9. Ladies, cleavage is NOT acceptable at work. As a matter of fact, there are studies that show a direct correlation between showing cleavage and a stagnated career. Move up the ladder by showing less, not more.

10. All, remember the 3 unacceptable "B's". No breasts, behinds, or bellies. Find clothing that de-accentuates your flaws and makes you look and feel great.

I've long said, "If you wouldn't wear it to an interview - you shouldn't wear it to work."

Look great - find success!

Ericka Heid
HR Now
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Thursday, March 4, 2010

Job Descriptions - To be or not to be?

Because I mainly work with small and micro-businesses, I am frequently asked, "Are we big enough to need job descriptions?"

And because of the experience that I have had with small and micro-businesses, I answer with a resounding, "Absolutely, you do." As a matter of fact, I am of the opinion that small businesses may need job descriptions more than a larger company needs them. Here is why:

1. Smaller organizations often don't have the expertise of an HR person on-site, so they may "guess" more than larger companies. For instance, they may be hiring a new sales person and assume they can be paid a salary versus an hourly rate of pay. Every HR person worth their salt knows that a business owner can not choose how to pay an employee - the law does that for you - there is litmus test that can be applied to any position to help determine its status under the Fair Labor Standards Act (FLSA). A current and thorough job description helps the organization to critically think through the questions asked of the FLSA, thus leading to the "right" answer about the compensation of a position.

2. Smaller companies have employees who wear many hats. Unlike large organizations, who may have individuals focused on only one thing, the employees of small companies may be asked to perform several different tasks within one position. Linking specific tasks with a specific position allows the business owner to rest assured that everything is being handled - and each employee knows precisely what they are responsible for. Nothing falls through the cracks.

3. Compensation. Now more than ever, compensation structures are becoming outdated, irrelevant, and in many cases - wrong for the company. Job descriptions help to assess the qualifications and competencies needed and desired in a particular position. In doing so, they help you compare to positions outside of the company, bringing increased clarity to how the compensation structure should be developed. Without a proper comparison - you are comparing apples to oranges.

So, while small business owners may believe that job descriptions are optional - or not needed altogether, I encourage you to reconsider their importance.

Happy Managing,
Ericka Heid
HR Now
www.h-r-now.com

Wednesday, February 10, 2010

Social Media - Friend or Foe?

Most small business owners are becoming more and more aware of how social media outlets such as Facebook, blogs, and LinkedIn can help to grow their exposure to their target market. We have come to accept this as the new way of doing business and spend a good deal of time communicating through the social media web.

So, now you need an employee. And you decide to begin your search using social media. Hey, it's a lot cheaper than throwing down several hundred dollars on an online ad, right? Well...

The problem with using social media to recruit employees is that you, as the hiring manager, probably will learn too much about your candidates before even interviewing them. Why is this a bad thing? Because some of what you may find out - you don't need to know. Things like race, gender, disability, sexual orientation, or religion are not things that can be considered when screening candidates because they bear no information about the qualifications or competencies of an individual. As employers, we must make hiring decisions based on functions of the job - not physical characteristics or other protected classes to which individuals may belong.

If you are going to use social media for recruitment or selection, follow some simple guidelines:

1. Have a purpose in mind for looking at media content. Legal purposes include finding out more about their educational background, their on-the-job experience, or their past positions or companies. If you just go out there just to "snoop", you are probably venturing out onto thin ice.

2. Be forthcoming about your use of social media. Tell candidates that you screen their online presence. Tell them what you are looking for. Ask if there are other places you can search. For instance, some people blog and would LOVE for a potential employer to have a look at it.

3. Have the ultimate decision maker stay away from investigating the social media. Someone from HR would be a better choice. This way, they can act as a filter, communicating only competency based information.

4. Be consistent. Look up all of the candidates, not just just one.

5. Don't assume that the information you have found is accurate. The Internet is an uncensored world, and anyone can post anything they want to. Not everything is credible, so try and verify what you see.

As with any recruitment or selection process, it is important to stay focused on the functions of the job, and how the candidate is either qualified or not qualified for your position.

Happy hiring!
Ericka Heid
HR Now
http://www.h-r-now.com/

Thursday, February 4, 2010

Liar, Liar, Pants on Fire

Just how often do job seekers embellish their experience, their education, or their credentials? Sadly, more often than you might think. And more often now that the labor market is so competitive.

How do you know if a candidate is lying? Easy - check it out. It is common for employers to stop checking references, because most of the time we are not able to verify anything but dates of employment and title. But I would encourage you to try again, this time with some smarter techniques.

First, ask the candidate for personal references of YOUR choosing. "Barb, who can I talk to at XYZ company that could tell me more about your involvement with the ABC project?" Then call that person. Ask for at least one reference in each critical project they have been a part of. Sometimes these people are not the "typical" references, but can often provide the most meaningful information.

It is true that the list of references on a candidates resume are going to tell you good things about that person. You, as the hiring manager, don't want to hear good things - you want to hear true things. So, ask questions of that reference that would allow you to assess specific competencies. For example, you need someone who works well within teams, so when you call their reference you'll ask, "Tell me how David worked within a team at your organization. What role did he play? How effective was he at getting things done through teamwork? How was he viewed by his fellow teammates?" This will help you avoid a generic statement like, "David is a real team player" and afford you an opportunity to think critically about David's ability to work in your team environment.

Lastly, and probably most importantly - do check the facts. For each qualified candidate, be sure that you contact at least 2 professional references, call the educational institutions to verify degrees earned, and run a simple background check for criminal convictions. The time you spend on proper due diligence now will save you the headache of a poor employee later.

Happy hiring,
Ericka Heid
www.h-r-now.com

Thursday, January 21, 2010

Don't Worry - Be Happy

Is your work fulfilling?

Is your boss supportive?

Are your efforts recognized?

If you answer "no" to any of these questions, you may not be a very happy employee. Or worse, your happiness may be compromised outside of work due to those eight-plus hours spent each day in a less-than-desirable work situation.

You may need to take your happiness into your own hands, in order to feel the bliss and joy you deserve. Empower yourself by resolving to take a few steps in the new year:

  • Set one or two work-related goals that are achievable and meaningful to you. Communicate them to those around you. Post them in your workspace. As you meet each goal, be sure to celebrate in small, yet fun ways.
  • Dwell on the parts of your job that feed your soul. Focus on tasks that you do well and the people who bring out the best in you.
  • Laugh. Have you heard the saying, "either laugh or cry"? Choose to laugh. Find ways to create humor in your day. Reading the comics over lunch or buy a silly calendar. Have lunch with your "fun" co-workers. The act of laughing itself releases endorphins known to improve mood.
  • Ask your supervisor for feedback instead of expecting it. Ask specific questions - "What what the best part of my role in the XYZ project?" Or, "What value am I bringing to this department on a regular basis?"
  • Develop yourself. Learn a new skill, take a continuing education course, or volunteer to be on a committee. Giving of oneself is a great way to feel that "warm and fuzzy" feeling.

"Some pursue happiness, others create it." ~Author Unknown

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Ericka Heid
HR Now